Friday, November 13, 2009

Dealing With Emotional Infidelity

By Benedict Perez

Emotional infidelity is already considered a form of adultery. This occurs when a person longs for comfort and intimacy from someone else and not from the spouse. This usually begins when a person engages into close personal relationships with someone whom he or she feels comfortable enough to share too private and confidential matters that are supposed to be kept only between husband and wife.

As a result, that person feels comfortably close and blindly reliant upon the other person's company because of the aura of confidence and ambience of intimacy created. Due to the constant confiding, chatting, or even hanging out, the person then senses an emotional attachment that becomes more and more serious thereby resulting to a certain feeling of happiness and security. This is very dangerous, as it can lead to physical intimacy if not immediately put to a halt.

There are many things that can help stimulate this kind of craving for emotional infidelity, usually in the guise of seemingly harmless activities or activities in good faith. Correspondingly, there are ways too to limit these dangerous longings. The marriage, above all, must be valued and treasured. Its sanctity must be respected and nourished.

One must be free from external influences that encourage cheating and infidelity. Pornography, for one, should be avoided in all forms, whether print or television or even in the web. Take extra care in dealing with members of the opposite sex by ensuring that nothing goes beyond the limit of friendship and the spirit of camaraderie. It is also great to have regular talks with a close married friend to have a guide on the dos and don'ts in marriage.

But certainly no one is perfect. Man is susceptible to temptation. The flesh is weak. However, that does not mean that man has no choice. Man still has a choice on whether or not to yield to the lures of sin. Yes, these thoughts on emotional infidelity are inescapable, but there is a choice on whether to tag along or to dismiss them as mere thoughts. Therefore, one should have a strong conviction to remain pure and loyal to the vows of marriage, both in heart and in the mind, in order to preserve its sanctity. - 16890

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