Sunday, May 31, 2009

How to Survive a Crisis in Your Marriage

By Ricardo d Argence

A marriage in crisis is difficult to handle as it seems that what was once full of life is now suffering and on the brink of dying. When you are dating, new love seems to have a life of it's own. Everything being so new feels like a new life has begun has the two of you have started a new life together.

When you get married, it seems like everything just falls into place and everything makes sense. When times get tough, though, and the marriage begins to struggle it can seem like the new life is starting to get old and may die out. If you aren't ready for your life together to die, your marriage in crisis may need to get C.P.R.

Get Counseling: If you are serious about saving your marriage in crisis, then you may want to think about going to a marriage counselor. This tool is not utilized by many people. If you are seeking a resolution to your problems and want to find little ways to help the two of you grow closer then you should definitely think about marriage counseling. You will be able to understand your partner better and find ways to show your affection towards your spouse.

You will also be able to find better ways to express yourself when you utilize marriage counseling so that you dont come across in an attacking manner.

Did it ever occur to you that one of you is dealing with some serious issues that is putting your marriage at risk? If you happen to be one of those people, then it may be best to get therapy on your own. This may be a hard pill to swallow because your pride tends to rear its ugly head and get in the way. However, if you are serious about saving your marriage that is in crisis, you will want and need to seek out a good marriage counselor.

Get Perspective: In the event that your marriage is headed for deep trouble, you will need to get some perspective about what is happening to your marriage. In this area it would be best to consult a marriage counselor because he or she will be able to help you to see things from a different perspective.

Things may appear to be very clear from your vantage point. However, when you are able to see things from a different angle, the things that you could not understand before may make better sense. When you are able to get perspectives from other vantage points and angles, this will be very helpful in making you fully aware of what is happening so that you will be able to save your marriage in crisis.

Resolution: Now that you have been able to get a better perspective on the crisis you are faced with concerning your marriage and are getting some counseling, you will have a great variety of ideas and information to make use of. These things will aid in repairing the damage that is done IF you are able and willing to act on it. To put it one way: Knowing is half the battle. However, no battle that was half fought was ever won.

When you see a person who is drowning and you know how to swim, perform CPR and are trained in first aid, you might know all that you need in order to save that persons life. Knowledge alone will not save that person, but if you act upon that knowledge that person has a better chance of surviving.

The same thing is true with your marriage. It just takes you acting upon it and getting resolved the issues that were killing your marriage. A marriage in crisis can only be saved if you act to make things better. - 16890

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