How much space in a relationship is necessary? The answer depends a lot on the type of relationship it is, and each person in it. Some people do better when they�re together constantly, and others crave more of their own space in a relationship.
The hard part is finding a happy medium that both people are comfortable with. This is made more difficult when you each have very different ideas about togetherness and space. But as long as you can compromise on the level of space in a relationship that you both need, then you can work through this challenge.
Some people don't like to be alone at all, and are very happy to spend all of their time with friends, family, coworkers, and significant others. They feel a little lost and alone if they have to do things on their own.
Other people need their time alone, and in fact crave it. Without getting a little solitude every day, they may feel burdened and have a hard time simply taking it easy. They always have to be "up," or they always have to be "on" for other people when they're around them, which can be exhausting. That's why they need time alone.
Of course, these are the two extremes when it comes to solitude versus "togetherness," but there are still other people who strike a balance between the two somewhere. They love to spend time together with partners, and they also want some time completely alone.
If both people in a relationship fall into this third category of "happy medium" between solitude and togetherness, then it's going to be pretty easy to define your space within the relationship. Similarly, if each of you falls into one of the two extreme groups, where each of you need lots of space or each of you likes being with other people a lot, then things are easier, too.
However, it can be a problem if one of you is a "people" person, and one of you needs to spend a lot of time alone. For example, if one of you is very social and one of you likes to spend a lot of time alone, you'll need to be able to talk to each other and work out a compromise whereby each of you gets what you need. Each of you will need to understand what the other wants so that you can come up with a compromise that will allow both of you to feel comfortable.
For example, if you really need to be alone for at least some of every day, but your partner wants company all the time, around the clock, that can be a problem. If you simply wander off on your own when you need space, but you don't say anything, your partner may very well feel neglected and think you don't want to be around him or her because you don't like his or her company.
And if you hate being alone and your partner really wants some me-time, then by hanging around constantly you can start to make your partner feel smothered. Your partner might also think that there�s no trust there, and you won�t give him or her private time because you�re afraid of what he or she might do when you�re not around.
You can see that each of these situations could cause significant problems in a relationship. However, if you talk to each other with honesty and openness about how you feel, you should be able to have your solitude with your partners understanding.
Remember that if your partner "hangs around" even when you want some space, then your partner probably doesn't need the same kind of space you do in your relationship. - 16890
The hard part is finding a happy medium that both people are comfortable with. This is made more difficult when you each have very different ideas about togetherness and space. But as long as you can compromise on the level of space in a relationship that you both need, then you can work through this challenge.
Some people don't like to be alone at all, and are very happy to spend all of their time with friends, family, coworkers, and significant others. They feel a little lost and alone if they have to do things on their own.
Other people need their time alone, and in fact crave it. Without getting a little solitude every day, they may feel burdened and have a hard time simply taking it easy. They always have to be "up," or they always have to be "on" for other people when they're around them, which can be exhausting. That's why they need time alone.
Of course, these are the two extremes when it comes to solitude versus "togetherness," but there are still other people who strike a balance between the two somewhere. They love to spend time together with partners, and they also want some time completely alone.
If both people in a relationship fall into this third category of "happy medium" between solitude and togetherness, then it's going to be pretty easy to define your space within the relationship. Similarly, if each of you falls into one of the two extreme groups, where each of you need lots of space or each of you likes being with other people a lot, then things are easier, too.
However, it can be a problem if one of you is a "people" person, and one of you needs to spend a lot of time alone. For example, if one of you is very social and one of you likes to spend a lot of time alone, you'll need to be able to talk to each other and work out a compromise whereby each of you gets what you need. Each of you will need to understand what the other wants so that you can come up with a compromise that will allow both of you to feel comfortable.
For example, if you really need to be alone for at least some of every day, but your partner wants company all the time, around the clock, that can be a problem. If you simply wander off on your own when you need space, but you don't say anything, your partner may very well feel neglected and think you don't want to be around him or her because you don't like his or her company.
And if you hate being alone and your partner really wants some me-time, then by hanging around constantly you can start to make your partner feel smothered. Your partner might also think that there�s no trust there, and you won�t give him or her private time because you�re afraid of what he or she might do when you�re not around.
You can see that each of these situations could cause significant problems in a relationship. However, if you talk to each other with honesty and openness about how you feel, you should be able to have your solitude with your partners understanding.
Remember that if your partner "hangs around" even when you want some space, then your partner probably doesn't need the same kind of space you do in your relationship. - 16890
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