Sunday, June 28, 2009

How To Get Your Boyfriend Back If He's Left You

By Ricardo d Argence

Have you finished with your man? Do you want to desperately get your boyfriend back? Then you're going to have to use a strategy that will help you get him back and not cause him to head for the hills!

Before you go any further, you need to acknowledge the fact that even though you long to make up with your boyfriend, he may have no interest in doing so. In fact, this could very well be the case if the two of you have broken up and made up on a regular basis in the past.

Remember, there is always a chance that he's become sick and tired of the breakup and makeup routine and as such, how you feel and what you want may be of no importance to him any longer.

Secondly to get guy back you're really going to have to look at the relationship as a whole, not just the parts you're comfortable looking at, because only then can you begin to find out what's causing the problems.

Also, if you feel that it may be necessary to get some form of outside help, then it would be in your own best interest to do so. Of course, you can often rely on friends providing they are honest and sincere because after all you need them to tell you what you should hear, rather than what you want to hear.

Something else which you'll need to be prepared for if you're open to make this work, is that there is no room to be acting on whims and emotions but instead, you need to work according to a good plan. Considering that this is probably the most important step of all, you need to take control of yourself as soon as possible.

Sit down and plan to do whatever it takes to stop yourself running around making things worse. Stop calling him, texting him and trying to force him to see you because begging and pleading won't work.

You'd be far better off occupying yourself with a meeting other people and going out socializing. In fact, do whatever it takes in order to regain a reasonable amount of clarity with regards to the situation.

Above all, take a good look at why exactly you want to get him back. Unfortunately there are many people who bend over backwards to one back their ex, only to discover shortly afterwards that they've made a big mistake.

If however you feel you've given it an adequate amount of thought and you still wish to get back together with him, then you need to go ahead and call him in order to discuss it, providing of course you're absolutely certain you're in control of yourself.

One other thing you should bear in mind is; he may not feel ready to see you yet and if that's the case is not very likely to want to discuss getting back together again. If you find yourself in a situation like this, rather than trying to force the issue, accept that he needs more time.

Instead, tell him that you understand completely and then tell him you will give him more time to think things through. Leave it at that and continue living your life and keeping yourself busy. - 16890

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